Updated: May 24
If you're married or dating and your significant other isn't doing right .... you best be learning to pray. It's the only that will keep you sane.
If you're not yet dating or married, you better learn to pray in advance because it's your only defense against the enemy.
If your prayer life is broad, it's time to learn to be specific. Your spouse's or future spouse's wellbeing is depending on your intercession, so let's get to it. This post will cover 5 areas to pray over for your spouse: His Spirit, His Mind, His Will, His Body, His Emotions. These areas of prayer were all inspired by The Wife Tribe's 2021 Quarter 1 Book Club pick, The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. If you want more guidance in your prayer life and marriage, buy the book!
1. His Spirit: We cannot survive without faith. There are too many varying degrees of life to not be focused on building faith. Your spouse's walk with the Lord is crucial to providing leadership for your marriage, family, and home. Praying for your spouse's faith to grow can bring blessings of moral integrity, godly counsel, wisdom and so much more.
Romans 10:17 says "faith comes by hearing, and hearing the word of God", therefore it is important to pray that they are open to hearing the word, and reading the word so their faith is built on God's word. Pray that his faith grows so that he believes all things are possible with God (Philippians 4:13). Pray that he can endure trials and that he can gain a positive perspective of strengthened faith when he goes through a difficult experience knowing that all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord (Romans 8:28). Pray for your spouse to be filled with the Holy Spirit so that his faith will not waiver. Pray that he dwells with God so he can depend on His Spirit to fill his spirit.
"My eyes shall be on the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me; he who walks in a perfect way, he shall serve me. Psalm 101:6
2. His Mind: It is said that a mind is a terrible thing to waste. As the control center of the body, that statement coud not be more true. Understanding the influence that your spouse's mind will have on their thinking, actions, bodily functions, emotions, and relationships will help you see why this area requires your constant prayer. It could mean the difference between sickness and health, being rich or poor, and living through better or worse.
There is never a time when your husband's mind is not vulnerable to the enemy's temptations and influences. Everything we see, smell, taste, touch, and hear is absorbed by our mind, therefore your prayers should be for every sense to be protected from the guidance of the enemy. May your spouse learn to take captive every thought and submit it to God (2 Corinthian 10:5). Pray for his eyes to turn away form wickedness, for him not to partake in perverse speech, for him to have self-control in what he eats. Pray for anxiety, depression, and strongholds to be demolished as soon as they are recognized. Continue to speak truth over him and pray that he is receptive to your positive speech because it is the truth of God's promises.
"Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." Philippians 4:8
3. His Will: Have you ever played tug of war within yourself? No I shouldn't... wait yes I should...but no. The reality is, we are horrible decision makers on our own. We must depend on God's will to live healthy and happy lives but in order to do that we must surrender our own will in the process. God has a perfect will designed for your spouse and your prayers can help him be reminded of that in times of doubt.
Pray for your spouse's heart to be intentionally aligned with God so he can have a sensitive reaction to His will when revealed. Pray for your husband's purpose to be revealed at just the right time. Pray for him to remember even in difficult times that the choices he makes will be reflective of God. Pray for his future, regardless of how old or young he is. We don't know the things that are to come but we do know our prayers can go ahead of us for a special time. These prayers are not meant for you to put pressure on your spouse. He doesn't even need to know you pray specifically for these areas, it's simply to interceed on his behalf so that God's will can be done on earth as it is in heaven.
I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. Ephesians 1:17-19
4. His Body: Having the use of your limbs is enough to have a praise session, yet we often take it for granted that we have health in our bodies. Our bodies are made up of cells that create tissue, which create organs and muscles and so much more. The body is so complicated but its part of what God created and considered to be good. If your spouse has good health pray for prevention but if your spouse does not have good health, your prayers have the power to affirm God's healing over him.
This prayer area can be one of the most difficult to apply in faith simply because physical health can change drastically with any infection, virus, fall, accident. How do you still pray and have faith that God can heal when someone you love is in so much pain, how do we trust God for the outcome, whatever it is, instead of blaming God? In your prayers be sure to affirm for yourself and your husband that you trust God and you leave it in His hands. Pray that his body will function the way it was designed to, that he will view hisself the way God sees him, pray for his sleep, his eating habits, his consistency, his self-care, his strength, his protection going to and fro. Most importantly pray that through the difficulties, he will be open to learning and growing so that he can experience his own healing and restoration.
"I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears; surely I will heal you." 2 Kings 20:5
5. His Emotions: Most maturing Christians have had to come to the realization at some point that we either have or do not have a healthy balance of emotional expression. Whether it be your spouse is too angry, too unaffectionate, too bitter, too insecure, too judgmental, or too anxious, it all needs your prayer so he can address his toxic areas. This is not something you can fix for him, but you can provide the necessary support along with heeding the guidance of the Holy Spirit about the right way to address the issues you observe.
Often times the enemy has access to us through our emotions. One small thing can happen and we immediately react in a negative way, allowing our emotions to dictate our behavior. It's time to take back control in prayer. Pray for your spouse to never be controlled by negative emotions, pray for his deliverance and full restoration in the area(s) you observe. Pray for the gifts of patience, laughter, positive thoughts to be added to his daily experiences. Pray with the hope of experiencing freedom for the sake of your marriage and health. As with every prayer mentioned, seal it in Jesus' name, Amen.
"He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name's sake."
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